When I lived like a Monk

In December 2011, I renounced my modern life for ten days. The most self-transformational experience that I have ever had in life was completing 10 days of absolute silence (aka Vipassana) in Blackheath during the summer. I was blessed to have the opportunity to greet the mountains every morning, to connect to my core ‘being’ on a daily basis, to discover my truth and purpose in life and to fully heal myself from the severities of life.

My key insights from deep contemplation and introspection during these 10 days would be these simple and profound lessons:

1. Pain is only in your mind.

2. Every little atom in every little thing changes in every little moment.

3. Extreme silence is the channel to digging deep.

4. Self-discovery is merely a breath away.

5. Absolutely everything is connected.

6. It all starts with you.

The reason I give importance to meditation in my life is due to the above reasons and wealth of wisdom I gained from my time away from the ‘real world’. There is no secret or trick to a peaceful state of mind other than humbly tuning inwards. It helps you become a better human being, a better leader and the best version of yourself (for yourself).

Here’s to always being sunny-side-up always!

Stay blessed.

A World of Hope and Healing

Life is a really odd experience right now to say the least. Our current world and projection of reality is one where toilet paper has become somewhat a form of common currency, our mere rugged hands that work tirelessly day-in and day-out are drenched in alcohol-infused hospital grade sanitisers and where big hopes and dreams are continuously being washed away by excessive pandemic panic and toxic thinking. Our world is spiralling into chaos and the mayhem is predicted to only get worse in the coming months.

Here is what I have learned and will incorporate as my coping mechanisms for the weeks and months ahead. I wish to share them with you if you’re interested in incorporating any or all of it. If it floats your boat, steal it and share it. If it doesn’t cause any ripples in your thoughts or consciousness, then my verbiage has only consumed some minute seconds of your precious life.

RADICAL ACCEPTANCE

This pandemic that is COVID-19 is actually happening! You haven’t just woken up into a nightmare or disaster. This is actually happening.

Radical acceptance and self-education is key to understanding the full nature of this disease and sharing the implications of this virus in our communities, our world, our people.

Acceptance does not mean we blindly give in to what is happening around us. Acceptance means to simply be present and stop fighting reality, stop responding with destructive behaviours and let go of bitterness that may suffocate or destroy us and our spirits. I believe radical acceptance is key to reviewing the current situation, putting into place mechanisms to cope and whilst preparing to find solutions to solve the problem. There is absolutely no room for ignorance or to live in a confined bubble right now. The world is currently experiencing a pandemic and we are all at risk! Extra care and safety measures need to be abided by to ensure everyone’s health and well-being.

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER

Learning and education is critical in keeping up with how to look after yourselves and each other. I am no medical professional and my remit via this blog is not to share any medical or professional guidance. What I do know is that this disease does not discriminate! Anyone can get it. And sadly, some will be affected more severely than others, depending on the age segments that they fall into and their status of health and well-being. I encourage everyone to continue reading informative and insightful content and advice from trustworthy and authentic sources, share this information with those at risk and those that should be advised, research and communicate with health professionals that are at your disposal.

DUE DILIGENCE

Everyone talks about ‘common sense’ and doing the ‘right’ things. There are so many articles and guides online that can be followed to ensure you are less susceptible of being infected with this disease. Do those things, religiously! The time is now. You need to hold yourself accountable and maintain health and strict hygiene practices. Speak to your doctor or a health professional if you’re unsure of what that should look like. Don’t suffer in silence. Ask the silly questions, do your research, be disciplined and informed about what to do and what not to do.

PREPARATION

Prepare, prepare, prepare! Be vigilant and take precautionary steps, but also be considerate and don’t hord excessively on supplies. Sharing is caring, especially in challenging and trying times like the present when there is a global shortage of so many necessities. The necessities which we usually take for granted! Think of your loved ones and the wider communities. Allow enough for yourself however remember that there are others that will also need what you need. Be balanced! Be considerate! Be thoughtful!

EMBRACE YOUR FAITH

It’s possible to have unwavering faith but times like this can be particularly trying and soul wrenching for many. We are constantly bombarded by the media, scare tactics are on the rise and we are lost for words and wisdom when people are losing their lives or their greatest asset, their health.

A strong support network is imperative to help you keep going in this chaotic environment. Keep your family and friends close. Here are some simple things to remember and try if your faith is fading:

  • Keep your head up
  • Take it one day at a time
  • Stay positive (sometimes you need to fake it till you make it)
  • Maintain high spirits
  • Have a sense of perspective
  • Share your sentiments with your loved ones
  • Take care of each other
  • Connect with yourself and reconnect with those you haven’t checked in with in awhile
  • Make time for self care
  • Journal and reflect on your experiences
  • Physical activity and exercise
  • Genuinely listen and lend a supporting hand
  • Pray and meditate
  • Spend time in nature
  • Takes deep breaths and consume copious amounts of fresh air
  • Practise mindfulness

BE KIND

Let kindness be your superpower. No matter where you are in the world or what your circumstances are, remember you need to be kind to yourself and those around you. Everyone’s under massive stress, stricken by fear or confused and perplexed. In times like this, kindness and understanding are even more important and critical for mental health and care. Before you say something that may be offensive or hurtful think deeply about it, before you judge someone negatively check in with yourself and question why you feel that way, before you act or react in a harmful manner redirect your thoughts or reframe the situation to a more positive light. Be extra sensitive about the needs of others and yourselves and learn to observe and listen first and foremost. Seek guidance from your family and elders, your mentors, your trusted friends and peers or even someone you can confide in. Just simply remember to be kind!

We are all in this together. Let’s flatten the curve and look after ourselves and each other – with kindness, utmost care and unconditional love. United together as one, we can bring forth a world of hope and healing.

Stay blessed.

Serendipity

Such a beautiful and whimsical word isn’t it? This enchanting word has been a running theme for me this week. It seems to be following me everywhere I go!

Serendipity is the occurrence of an unplanned fortunate discovery as defined via Wikipedia. The reason this word also deeply resonates with me is because ‘Serendip’ was an ancient name for Sri Lanka, my island home. It has mystical resonance to my roots and I feel truly connected to it.

Since I was a little girl, I’ve always (typically as an airy-fairy Libran) adored fairytales and stories with happy endings. I love the idea and delightful feeling you get when you get the opportunity to learn about fun, wild and free-spirited characters that go through tumultuous or challenging plots to in the end finally reap the rewards and live a life of happiness and abundance. The exultant tones and bright hues of the illustrations and visuals that depict these stories are also powerful in giving you the feels and soaking up the vibes of the narratives. But enough about fairytales, it’s time for some reality!

So why did I choose to write about happy accidental discoveries today? Well, the current cosmic climate leading to the January 10 full moon lunar eclipse indicates that we are certainly feeling the waves of the astrological shifts and movements. For me personally, I have been feeling a sense of heaviness energetically and feeling exhausted these past few days. I strongly believe that what is outside of us is also affecting what is inside of us. Never fear, this post is not about just doom and gloom.

This post is just a gentle reminder to continue to have faith in your fortunes this week! Think big picture. I have full assurance that we are being intentionally and divinely guided towards a magical destiny, specially and carefully designed for each and every one of us. Although today some feelings may run deep and impulses will run high, we need to stay calm and patient so we can slowly and surely reap the benefits of our newfound freedom that results from the happy and perhaps ‘accidental discoveries’ that await us. Sometimes mistakes and even poor decisions may realign us through our wondrous spiritual paths that are written out for us. Be gentle with yourselves and others! There’s always, always, always a reason for everything in this world. Look beyond what you see on the surface. You will know the underlying truth by the way it feels.

I hope you all have a serendipitous week and keep shining! I wish you kind and wonderful blessings and fairytale-like happy endings and new beginnings.

Stay blessed.

Twenty Blessings for 2020

We have welcomed a new age… a new era… a new decade that is 2020!

Your visions are clear. Your intentions are set. Your goals are written. Your desires are endless. Your mission is to love. And your blessings are abundant.

This is my prayer and blessings for the upcoming decade… I’d love to share them with you as we continue to connect throughout our individual and collective journeys ‘home’.

  • I bless my connection to the divine universal spirit and will forever stay aligned to its magic.
  • I bless my channels to infinite grace and guidance.
  • I bless my ancestors and spiritual guides for their continued prayers and for watching over me at all times.
  • I bless my life for all that it is and beyond.
  • I bless my soul and its purpose that is now unfolding perfectly.
  • I bless my endless miracles (even the ones that I can’t see).
  • I bless my home as it is my sacred space.
  • I bless my body which is my holy temple and my vehicle to serve.
  • I bless my health and bountiful energy to keep me focused on my path.
  • I bless my loved ones who have committed to share their spiritual and physical journeys with me.
  • I bless mother nature for nurturing and nourishing us.
  • I bless my abundance of wealth to serve those in need.
  • I bless my work to help me grow both personally and professionally.
  • I bless my energy to be filled with light and love always.
  • I bless my knowledge and wisdom to share with the world.
  • I bless my words and actions to communicate only with love.
  • I bless my grateful heart for always being thankful.
  • I bless my silence and opportunities to tune deeply inwards.
  • I bless my kindness because that is my superpower.
  • I bless my everything.

I hope these words bring you peace of mind, open your hearts to know that you are worthy of absolutely everything you desire and enrich your worlds with an abundance of grace and love.

Happy New Year beautiful people! 2020 is going to be just magical.

Stay blessed.

Springing into September

It’s the first day of Spring. Do I need to say more? It’s definitely my favourite season of the year.

As the days get longer, the light gets brighter, the colours get more vibrant and the expressions on peoples’ faces become more uplifted… these are some of the simple and yet wonderful reasons as to why I’m springing into September.

Yes, I’ve been quiet lately. I’ve recently become a student again and have returned ‘back to school’ to study! It’s been a really enjoyable and interesting journey thus far (only 3 weeks in) and I look forward to embracing all the new learning, connections  and excitement that is yet to come.

I love the magic of new beginnings. And the beginning of spring has got my heart smiling and my senses open to new experiences. Although sometimes life overwhelms me, and I feel overcome by fear, anxiety and self-doubt, these are the deepest and darkest moments when I pray to the universe to remove all stress and worry from my mind and to give me the perfect peace that will carry me through the waves of life.

Life, as Macbeth tells us, is ‘a tale, told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing’. In a season that is yet to be packed full of action, it is worth remembering our beloved Shakespeare’s words. It is truly important to keep your sense of perspective as you witness dramatic moves, shifts, situations and decisions. It is easier to have faith in your feelings about what is really going on and to choose to consciously focus on what will serve your highest purpose.

In a world where you can be anything… choose to be kind, choose love! And always remember, you’re being taken care of by a kindly sky.

Stay blessed.

Surrender

Here we are again… it’s Sunday evening and I’m sitting on my bed with my laptop and a cuppa tea in hand. As I reflect on the past week that has just gone by and prepare for the upcoming week that I’m about to embark on, I’d like to take the lessons that I’ve learned over the last seven days to serve me in the coming days.

Today I write about surrender. Why? Well this is a recurring theme that has shadowed me throughout some very significant events in my life.

Last night as I was on my way to a very special event that my friend had organised, I was alerted by a notification in my car warning me of tyre pressure loss. That meant I should’ve literally taken the warning seriously and pulled over to call roadside assist! Well, what did I do instead? I kept driving. I know most of you will think I’m crazy. But I did it anyway. I drove all the way to Blacktown and back home, a total of 42km with an almost flat tyre. Why? Because my intention was to make an appearance at this event and to pass my love to my friend and I knew I would be taken care of by the higher forces of life, the universe. So I surrendered.

I knew I had to surrender to the fact that anything could have happened in any moment. But I kept driving anyway! And I was prepared mentally to deal with the circumstances. I’m not sure what influenced my thoughts and my intentions last night as I drove what was an unreliable car at that point, but I felt so sure that I was protected and I would be ok.

Surrender for me is about learning to let go and let love. Surrender for me is about trusting the process. Surrender for me is knowing that divine guidance knows what is best for my highest good. Surrender for me is about allowing it to be. And so in every moment and situation, I like to do my level best to truly surrender. Being a typical control freak and perfectionist that I am, this appears to be a challenge sometimes at the best and worst of times. However, like learning to strengthen a muscle, I continue to implement this spiritual practice in my life and deepen my understanding about life itself.

Surrendering has taught me some really important and deep life lessons! It’s taught me about flowing peacefully with the energy force of the universe. It’s taught me about letting go of limiting beliefs and thoughts and opening myself up to the finest possibilities. It’s taught me how to keep breathing even in the midst of adversity and to grow through every moment. It’s taught me how to float freely and rise above challenging times. It’s taught me how to let go of judgment. It’s taught me to how to enjoy every experience and opportunity that is presented to me. It’s taught me how to return to love. It’s taught me how to celebrate the miracle of being.

So many lessons, such a simple practice. I have been deeply enriched by learning how to surrender and this learning deepens as I continue to lap around the sun. The power of surrender is not something you can put into words. The power of surrender is truly magical.

What has surrender taught you? I’d love for you to share by commenting below.

Stay blessed.

Passions Speak

I believe passion truly speaks through our pulses. It beckons us towards our purpose in life, our highest good.

We often forget how precious each and every moment is. My Sunday nights are usually spent reflecting, introspecting, and realigning to my visions and values. I spend my time thinking about what’s most important and plan my upcoming week doing and investing in those ‘things’.

What gets me so excited is when I think about opportunities, when I think about possibilities and what it would feel like to embrace new ones to help realise my dreams. You see, life can change in any moment. I like to remind myself how in a single moment, everything around me can change, my entire life can be changed forever. I’ve experienced this! Have you?

Life is not all about doom and gloom. There’s so much to celebrate! But it’s also important to stay grounded and recognise that things like natural disasters, illness, accidents, negative circumstances and life in itself can just “happen”. And you have no choice but to roll with it!

Having this foresight helps to keep me grounded! Knowing how vital and precious this moment truly is. This moment. Right now! And when I become present to this moment, everything around me feels alive! I become more passionate about my visions, my dreams, my feelings and life itself. Passion truly starts to speak through my pulses! It’s the shivers, the goosebumps and the hair raisers that physically remind me of the magical and sacred space that we live in. These experiences marry up the physical with the ethereal for me. This feeling is truly beyond the regions of this earth!

Now… what passions will you pursue this week? What pulses will push you to take the next step in investing in your dreams? Go on! Grab every opportunity and embrace change as that is the only constant in life. Keep evolving and watch yourself blossom!

Stay blessed.

My Ingredients for Success

As a marketing professional, over the years I have always had drilled into me the importance of the traditional marketing mix, namely the Four P’s in business – Product, Price, Place and Promotion. This builds the very foundation of every business and defines the strategic and marketing objectives to the core.

Now we move on to talking about life and creative ideas…

Going back to basics and to grassroots, I am a firm believer in the fact that ideas generally always start small and have the potential to materialise BIG.

This also depends on the person that’s giving birth to these ideas, the one that’s breathing life into these ideas, the one that’s making sh*t happen (excuse the French). It takes a mammoth effort to bring an idea to life but what’s most amazing about it is the person’s journey and all the learning and growth that happens during the process.

To bring an idea to life takes plenty of work and what I like to refer to as my Four P’s in Life – Patience, Persistence, Perseverance and Positivity.

Why Patience?

It takes time, time and even more time for progress to take place. Stay humble and accept all the wins and lessons (not losses). Set goals in place and stay focused and committed to the higher purpose.

Why Persistence?

Consistency and persistence is key to keep moving forward. The only way is forward. And there are always learnings along the way.

Why Perseverance?

No one can make you do anything in life. Only you can! So you need to push yourself and to really want something to make it happen.

Why Positivity?

A positive and healthy mindset is vital to having a consistent approach to achieving your dreams and visions. Think mind over matter always and focus on the silver linings when life throws curveballs and challenges your way.

Do you have these four noble qualities? Is this something you’re working on? These are my four ingredients for success and I wanted to share them with you today.

Take it from a marketer of both marketing and life in general. The core business objectives of an idea are crucial but what really drives you deep down are your personal objectives. It always comes down to the people. Motivating your people. Motivating yourself.

Remember, it’s rain that grows flowers not thunder. Plant some seeds this weekend and watch them develop into something meaningful and amazing. Keep moving forward, just one step (or leap) at a time.

Stay blessed.

Your People

Sometimes I feel like I am floating through life… connecting with the right people at the right time… learnings the lessons that I am meant to learn and absorb… living and digesting every moment the way that it’s meant to be experienced… in the most perfect way.

Today I wanted to bring light to ‘Your People’. You know, those people in your life that are simply yours! It’s not that you really own them or anything silly like that, but those people that ‘orbit’ around you for a reason, whether they are family, friends, work colleagues, acquaintances you see often and so forth.

I’m simply talking about…. The people you live with. The people you have grown to know. The people that make your day. The people that make a difference in your life. The people that influence your decisions.  The people that give you a reason to smile. The people that help you. The people that spend time with you. The people that openly share their feelings with you. The people that even sit in absolute silence with you (and time still flies).

These are YOUR PEOPLE!

People are amazing I find, no matter who they are or where they are from. Each person is deeply enriched with various experiences to share and enhance your life. Because they teach us so much about ourselves and also about each other.

We often forget this. We often forget how valuable the people in our lives really are. So I wanted to bring this to light today! I wanted to remind you to be present. I wanted to remind you to be grateful. I wanted you to remind you to appreciate how rich you really are!

Embrace your people. And when you do… think about what they do for you because that is their gift to you. And don’t stop there… Also think about how you can enrich their lives too. That is your gift to yourself!

Stay blessed.